Mental Health. Why is it taboo to talk about?

Hello, My name is Alivia and I am the author of this blog but it has been awhile since I have posted and I appologize for that, I have had to much going on, so much change in my life and so many things not going as planned including regularly posting on this blog. I want to jump right back in, so I thought I would write about something heavy on my mind, mental health. I have struggled with my mental health for many years, and as the years pass I continue to struggle and it seems the struggle continues to worsens as well. I have more issues to burden me, more stress, more responsibilies and my health continues to decline. But I am getting off point, I want to talk about how it is taboo to talk about mental health, or our lack there of. Why? Why is it okay to talk about a broken limb, cancer, or a tumor but not mental health struggles? I think it is because it is easier to dismiss it since it can’t easily be seen, now don’t think I’m saying it is invisible because if someone takes the time they can see the effects of an unhealthy mind, what I’m saying is that it is a hard subject to confront in our own lives and it is even harder to confront it in anothers life so we avoid the subject and when it comes we as humans act in a way this is frankly disapointing but is well, human, we regect the subject and we may even belittle the person, their feelings, even their symptoms, why? I honestly don’t have a good answer for that, I find if apauling, and frankly I find it disapointing for the human race to act this way towards another human, seriouisly guys, what gives!? Why can’t we just be supportive, kind and understanding? Why is that so hard? Please the next time you meet someone who struggles with a mental illness, be kind, let them know you care, let them know you are there for them, that they matter and that they are not a burdon just because they are struggling, you have no idea what that means to those of us who are battling our own minds, we struggle with daily tasks and thinking that we are an exreme burdon and we try to hide our struggle which often leads to the illness getting worse the more we try to hide it and that can lead to worse symptoms and can lead to suicide, we aren’t meant to fight alone, we are a social, we need support, we need understanding and love and compassion, not to be ridiculed, not to be belittled or a subject of hate or made fun of. PLEASE be there for someone, a conversation and support could save their life.

I hope you find this article helpful and relevent, I would love to hear your opinion on this post and to hear what YOU find relevent, and what you may want to read about, I would love to do research and write things that my readers are interested in. Tell next time, Alivia 

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What it’s like living with an invisible illness(s)

“It’s almost like living a double life; there’s the one that everyone sees and then the life you’re actually experiencing. It can get confusing when the two collide (which happens quite often) — I feel misunderstood, alone and like I can’t live up to what the world expects of me.” 

It’s as if I wrote this. It’s my life. No one understands, they think I should be “better”. There isn’t getting better, just better or worse days. No cure, no remedies, no food I can eat to make it go away, just things I can do to help a little bit and they don’t always work, having to rest and taking it easy makes it hard because it’s something I have to do, not that I always want to do, I want to have the energy and be pain free to do all the things that need done at the house, to run errands, to take my daughter to the park by myself, to go to family functions, but I’m often not physically able to do so, sometimes I’m not mentally able to. But I don’t say that, I have to say we can’t make it, or I’m not feeling well but no one understands and they have stopped inviting me to things because I often can’t make it, that hurts because i feel unwanted, and like I’m a disappointment because i can’t make when I really do want to I use can’t. I feel like a failure 99.9% of the time, to my family at home, my extended family, my “friends” which the latter list isn’t really existent anymore, they have all given up seeing me, me going out to have fun, they just don’t ask or check in on me anymore, I’m to much of a downer since I can’t go, boring, and so they have forgotten me. It’s hurtful, I understand since I can’t make it but I still want to feel wanted and cared about. Invisible illnesses suck because everyone only sees the outside where you look “okay” not the inside where your hurting, in so much pain you can’t walk or get out of bed without aid, where your so depressed that you can’t make yourself do anything to help yourself because you just feel like giving up, no one cares or wants to understand, they just nod and reply or tell you to do this or that to “cure” it, not understand that it’s incurable, even you have told them so. It’s a hard ( physically, mentally and emotionally ) and it’s lonely. Very lonely.

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Things I wish I could do.

It is so hard, I have big dreams, ambition, plans, yet getting out of bed and dressed and ready for the day is often a challenge, don’t bother trying to do much more than that. It sucks, I’m young, and I want to be able to do so much more than I’m able, than my body will allow, more than I do now. But, I’m not physically capable for doing all the things I need much less want to do each day. I just want to be able to have energy and be relatively pain free.

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Living with the guilt from being unable to do it all, it’s hard.

This is so true, yet harder than one may think. Guilt from being unable to do simple daily tasks we usually take for granted or not being able to go to an event or party, it’s hard and it hurts us, not only for ourselves but we feel awful for the people who invited us and they will feel left out or unwanted or unloved, when it’s not the case at all, it’s just we are to weak to do so many things, in to much pain to go out, and we have no control over it. We try so hard yet we always fall short of the to do lists because of our lack of energy, the constant pain and illness that we didn’t ask for. We try to accept the new way of life, but it’s not easy. Please remember that next time someone with a chronic illness  ant make it to an event, they want to go but physically we just can’t do it all. Be patient and kind to us. We need it, we are already hard enough on ourselves as it is.

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My life, just a peak

This is my life, it’s not what I chose but it’s what happened. I try my best to be positive but some says are harder than others, not only pain wise, but physically and emotionally. Imagine being young (I just turned 24) and having 24/7 pain, I have constant lower back pain and neck pain. And then I also have Daily Chronic Migraines ( old diagnosis, I now have intractable migraines which means they never stop ). So I have daily, constant, pain. It limits my physical capabilities, strength, energy, the amount of time I can be doing anything even just simple tasks walking, or doing dishes. I actually miss the days where I could work non stop all day and just be sore. Now, I can’t even do all the dishes without being in excruciating pain. It’s sad, and it hurts ones self esteem, to go from being able to do so much to so little. Then there is the emotional side, which includes the self esteem, but Chronic Migraines and Chronic Pain often leave those who have one/both with depression, anxiety and insomnia from the pain. I have all three of these, the anxiety has gotten bad enough that it has been effecting my heart. This journey I’m on I did not chose but I live it every single day. When you invite me to something and I say I’ll try if I’m not sick, or if I’m feeling okay or if I can, I mean it. I want to badly, to be able to do so much more, at home, with my daughter, my husband, my home, and in social life. But physically I am not capable of doing near so much, I try, but I usually fall short, and not by lack of will either. I often ( usually daily ) over do it, making the next hours or even days worse for my body because of it. I’m to determined to do things sometimes and don’t pay attention to my body, I try not to do this but I miss being able to do so much so I push myself. Which isn’t fair for myself, my body or family because then they have to see me in more pain and upset because I didn’t get to do what I set out to. This is something is am still working on,  a work in progress, but that’s okay. I have to continue to learn what my body needs and to do what’s best for it. It’s hard, trust me it is, but I only get one body, and my family needs me. So when you’re tired from to many chores, remember that some of us long to have the ability to do all those chores physically. And say a prayer for us, because there are so many more of us than you think.

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Pregnancy, and the ER

Okay so night before last I spent 4 hours at the Oklahoma City OU ER. Let’s just say that I dislike going to the ER. I spent hours there with little answers, was so tired, hungry and very stressed out. But baby was fine, it was mommy not doing well. I say that as I’m in bed exhausted from soaking in the bath, #spoonieproblems , and I have been feeling quite bad all day. Hardly able to move, throbbing pain with every movement, shooting pain in my temple and eyes, especially my right eye, visual disturbances and over all ache and worn out. This has been my day. Hope you guys are having a great day, and tomorrow is a new day!

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Cease the day

Today is the day ladies and gentlemen. It may be cold ( at least where I am at it is very cold! and I dislike the cold ), and gloomy BUT we can still cease the day! I got up and did my Mary Kay Skin care ( which is the best in case you were wondering 🙂 ) and went to the dentist and had three fillings done, I am currently unable to chew, drink properly or talk haha. But that means all my fillings are taken care of, wahoo! And next week is my final appointment, a root canal, not quite as excited BUT it’ll be done and that is awesome. I also have my online class today, I am writing here first so I can focus on that, and I am making my self decaff sweet tea! ( I am allergic to caffeine *sad face* ) And I have my Mary Kay Meeting tonight, YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! It’s been a year since I have gone, hehe 2015 now it’s 2016, get it? lol yeah I don’t have the greatest since of humor but I do have some. I also have lots of picking up to do since the house is a bit of a wreck but will be in ship shape later on. I am thankful to have a house and thankful for the fact I have to do this training because that means 1. I am learning new things and 2. I have a job, and I am excited about it even!!! Well, I better get to my class, I have to do about 6 chapters today to catch up so I have to get at it. Ya’ll have a wonderful and blessed day!

 

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